Raising a girl these days is really hard. There are so many issues to discuss and so many feelings involved with well, everything.Girls tend to take things really personally. When you attempt to point out that perhaps the friend who does not want to play four square at recess because she would rather jump rope is not actually a sign that the friendship is over, you are simply the mother who just doesn’t understand.Emma is especially prone to these kinds of moments, because she greatly struggles with self-confidence. She genuinely believes oftentimes that she is not good enough for something or that no one would choose her for a task because she wouldn’t do it well enough to be successful.
We talk a lot about putting yourself out there and just trying things to boost her self-confidence. We talk all the time about how even if she does not feel like she believes in herself, we believe in her. I write notes for her lunch box to remind her of this.
Sometimes it sinks in, and I see her rising up and wanting to try something new. Wanting to give something a shot because she sees the value in going after what you want even if you are not sure you will get it.
We saw the movie Monster’s University with Lucy, and we all spent a long time talking after the movie about why pursuing a dream is important and how even if that exact dream does not come true, it is okay. That life is about the journey, not the destination. The movie perfectly captured for their age group the feeling that sometimes you win and sometimes you lose, but more importantly that you always succeed because you tried.
When this school year started, Emma expressed an interest to me in campaigning to be the President of her school’s Green Team, which is the environmental club for the 3rd and 4th grade. Just between you and me, I was extremely nervous and felt apprehension and fear about her being disappointed if she did not win the election.
But, I told her that I thought it sounded like a fantastic opportunity to really step outside her comfort zone and go after something that she wanted. She practiced making a speech and was beaming when she got in the car after her first meeting. She told me that she had really tried her best and felt like she might actually win.
She said that Lucy told her after the meeting that she voted for her (BFFs totally rock!) and that she thought Emma was totally going to be the Green Team President because she gave such a good speech.
We spent the next week talking about how no matter what the outcome of the election was, the fact that she tried at all was winning enough. I could see as the week went on that she was genuinely feeling for the first time in a long time confident about herself. Excited about the possibility of achieving this goal, but also proud of herself.
The results of the election were announced at a very special lunch meeting, so I had to wait until pick-up time to hear what happened. It was all very nerve-wracking and anxiety-inducing, because in my heart of hearts I really wanted her to win. I wanted her effort to try rewarded with a victory. I did. I couldn’t help it. I wanted to feel the true feeling of victory, because I knew it would help keep her confidence up for the future.
The picture says it all, right? That face is one of a girl who is finally feeling that she is worthy. May she always remember that.
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