Would You Rather: Be Costume-less Or The Only One Wearing A Costume?

Another Halloween is upon us here at The Dose of Reality.

The candy will be procured tomorrow, so as to not tempt us to cheat on Weight Watchers. Sure, come tomorrow night when we are “throwing away” the last of the candy from the bowl, there is a *tiny* chance a Rolo or twenty may make its way into our mouths, but what happens on Halloween night stays on Halloween night.

All over Facebook this weekend was a sea of photos of children attending pre-Halloween events like “Tent or Treat” and adults attending parties called things like “Crawloween”. From the comfort of my cozy jammies, I got to see friends dressed up like Sonny and Cher or Little Red Riding Hood. Facebook, you are the greatest.

It got me thinking, of course, about what it would be like to attend a party near Halloween and misread the instructions in one of two ways. And let me be clear, y’all, this could totally happen to me. I tend to be an email skimmer, so it is easy for me to miss important details. Like party attire.

So, picture this scenario…you and your hubby get invited to a fancy shindig. Babysitters are arranged. Last minute hair appointments are scheduled. Perhaps you even sneak off to TargetΒ Ann Taylor to find a suitable outfit to wear. You are feeling excited. Date night arrives and off you go, hostess gift in hand to make an appearance and still get home before the sitter misses her 10:00 p.m. curfew party the night away!

You ring the doorbell, feeling like you picked just the right mix of accessories to party fanciness ratio. You quickly tell yourself that even though just a little over an hour ago you were wearing yoga pants and eating your kid’s leftover Goldfish from her snack bag, you have still got it.

Until the door opens and you see the party hosts and guests.

All of them wearing elaborate costumes.


Like full ball gowns and wigs and makeup.

And you are wearing, well, clothes.


Can you say awkward?

So, you spend the entire evening feeling completely ridiculous because you somehow missed the part on the party invite where it said that guests were to arrive in costume. Oh sure, you try and joke around and pretend like you are wearing a costume…but everyone there knows that there is most definitely not a *real* costume called “frazzled parents who can’t properly read an invitation”!


You show up at the very same party. You and your hubby have really gone all out this year with your costumes. You are totally determined that the end of the night will result in the two of you being given the crowns for “Best Costume”. After all, if you go to all the trouble to pay for a babysitter, you might as well go for the gold, right?!

The door opens and this is the scene you see inside.


Beautiful people toasting to a night of kid-free fun!


Not exactly what you were picturing when you got dressed this evening. After all, you were CERTAIN that you were attending a costume party. Not a cocktail party. You assured your hubby that everyone there would be dressed up and that the two of you HAD to go all out with this one.


Who is not loving every minute of this couple’s costume?

So, then you get to stand around all night making polite conversation with couples while dressed as a pair of clowns. It is a crowded party, but there is no doubt that all night long all eyes are on the two of you. Oh sure, you try to laugh it off and attempt to jokingly suggest that you are the only two who really know how to have fun, but let’s be honest here, you are really just masking your humiliation. You cry the tears of a clown the whole way home that night.

Those are your options on this Halloween Eve.

Would you rather be the only couple NOT wearing a costume at what is obviously a costume party or be the only couple wearing a costume at what is obviously NOT a costume party?





Would You Rather: Be Costume-less Or The Only One Wearing A Costume? — 106 Comments

    • Oh my God, I love that it happened to you!! That is awesome! Was it totally embarrassing? I need details! πŸ˜‰

      • A friend of my bfs told us that it was a costume party a week before Halloween so we showed up in costumes. However no one else was wearing one! Everyone was wearing heals, dresses and suits so embarrassing I cried all the way home!

  1. I am absolutely loving every minute of the clown couple! OMG they are ridiculously adorable and two of the most un-scary clowns I’ve ever seen.
    As for your question? I would much rather show up in just clothes! I would feel like a moron but at least it would be ME as opposed to me the moron in a freakin costume!! This was a good one!! If I don’t “see” y’all – Happy Halloween!

    • Thanks Allie! Hope you and your bunch have a happy Halloween, too! πŸ™‚ I would feel like a moron, too, but at least I would be in more comfortable attire! πŸ˜‰

  2. I would rather be the only one not in costume. Because as the night wears on, those elaborate costumes will probably get hot and itchy and start coming off piece by piece. And I will be comfy. This was a good one! Thanks, Dose Girls!

  3. My husband and I have been the couple who was not dressed up. It was a raging house party, so we were able to skirt the embarassment of the hosts opening the door, but it was still unsettling. My excuse was that I had just gotten off work, which was only partly true. I’d still rather be that lame couple than the clowns who are standing alone in full costume. I’d like to party with those clowns, though!

  4. I am going to have to say I would rather show up sans costume with my husband also, because at the very least it is just us and the other option of wearing a costume when no one else is would probably make me feel like a bigger moron. That is just my feeling, but would love to see what others do think.

  5. My gut reaction? I’d rather be sans costume and blame it on Mommy Brain. Of course, my husband would definitely prefer this option. But, let’s shake things up a bit this morning. I’m going to show up at that party rockin’ the most awesome costume ever and own the night! Kinda like Elle showing up in a Playboy Bunny costume at a snotty law party in Legally Blonde. Yeah, I just used Legally Blonde as the basis for my argument. Because I’m awesome! Happy Halloween, ladies! Enjoy that pesky Rolo that somehow finds its way into your mouth!

    • Love this answer Nicole! Love that Elle got a shout out for rocking it in Legally Blonde! Way to go outside your comfort zone! πŸ™‚

  6. well, y’all know me, I’m a put it all out there… but my Hubs, no, ultra-consverative, barely even talks to me…LOL. NO- he wouldn’t be couldn’t be dressing up so we would be us & the party would be delighted because well it is me, right??? BaHaHaHa!!! Happy Halloween ladies!!!

  7. I would definitely choose to be the ones in street clothes. I am TERRIBLE at costumes and do not get the joy of dressing in them that others do. I’d probably try some lame excuse like saying that we are dressed as party poopers – every party has its poopers, that’s why you invited us!

  8. I am not a costume kind of gal, so I’m definitely going to say I would rather show up to the costume party without a costume. I would try to come up with some clever excuse for my lack of a costume – I might say we had three parties to attend that night, but only one was a dress up party. That would make us look way more social than we are AND give us an excuse to leave early! πŸ™‚

  9. Without costume, no question. And I was already laughing out loud at those clowns…then I read the caption and laughed harder. Who is that? I love it! I would never wear it but I love looking at it.

    • I could never wear it either Stephanie…but I am grateful to whoever did so I could use their picture on the blog! πŸ˜‰

  10. Well, if we were as snazzy as that clown couple, I might have to go with the latter…

    Nah, so much would rather be the only ones not dressed up, though I would really be sad to have missed out on the opportunity. I love dressing up for Halloween!

    • If you love dressing up Bev, then you should totally go for it! Be the couple in costume…come on…do it for the blog! πŸ˜‰

  11. I would totally rather be the nerd in an awesome costume in a room full of normally dressed folks. What other time of year do you get to dress up and make believe that you are a totally amazing princess or evil witch? Miss that for heels and a sensible outfit? No way Jose.

  12. The hubs and I have been together for over 10 yrs and we have never ever dressed up on Halloween together ever. Now you are making me feel extra bad that we don’t at least attempt to

  13. Tough one. If I showed up in the costume and no one else was, I could take it off and not look so ridiculous (if I was wearing clothes under it!). My husband would definitely prefer no costume. We went to a party two years ago and the costume theme was “from the bible”, and no it wasn’t a religious party. Anyway, he dressed as Jesus traveling the desert, but he hated the costume (fake black beard, afro wig (I know not exactly Jesus)) that he stood in the corner sulking most of the night. Instead of traveling Jesus he looked like a middle east terrorist! That was the last time we were in costumes!

  14. That’s tough, but I think I would rather be in costume while everyone was not. I mean hey….maybe we just wanted to SPICE this cocktail party up a bit and GO ALL OUT PEOPLE!! I would NOT want to be the one showing up sans ball gown…that would be too horrible.

  15. Delightful options either way. The lesser of the two evils for me would be when I was in street clothes and others were in costume. Why? With my luck I’d otherwise be dressed as something delicate like a “fisher” complete with fishing rod. I’d unintentionally spear someone’s elegant dress, another’s fancy coiffure and trip the hostess garbed in her finest. If I was dressed in street clothes on the other hand at least I could tell clown boy I was in costume. I’m “a mom.”

    • Dying laughing Kelly at your description of what would happen if you were in costume!! Oh my Gosh, that is SO TRUE!! I would totally do something like that, too!

  16. No costumes for me!! I’m the lamest ever when it comes to costumes – I would be perfectly fine being the only one in normal clothes!!!
    The clowns are awesome!!!
    And that is a fancy costume party!!

    • Well, you know, costume parties can be really fancy! πŸ˜‰
      I am with you, though…am not a costume fan at all!!

  17. Oh I’d rather be the one NOT wearing the costume to the costume party. I’d try to fabricate some kind of “story” about my non-costume costume or just say this is my absent minded from lack of sleep where am I anyway costume. Clowns scare me even if they are a little cute πŸ˜‰

    • WHAT?? Say it isn’t so!! When I was writing this post I was 100% sure that you would pick the costume option…you went to Comic Con!! Hello, you are all about a costume! I think you need to re-think your answer little missy! πŸ˜‰ πŸ™‚

  18. I am loving the clowns..

    I choose with costume. It happened to me once. My stupid friend invited me to an 80’s party in another town. My sister and I got DOLLED up, and I do have a photo on hand because I like you:
    We got there and you could hear a pin drop when we walked in. People just stared at us, while they coolly sipped beers in their jeans and t-shirts.

    Whatever. We were hot. I did bring my friend outside and asked her to next time let me know if she wasn’t sure about the costume party, because I had shown up looking like “Debbie Gibson on acid.”

    • I am DYING, DYING laughing at that picture! It is probably my favorite picture ever! Oh my God, I cannot even stand how much I love this comment and this story and the fact that you shared this with us!! πŸ™‚

  19. That is a good question. I guess no costume would be a little better, at least you wouldn’t have gone to a bunch of extra work.
    I ike that you are buying your candy late, I got mine last week and had to buy some replacement candy yesterday because I got into the first batch.

  20. Okay, this isn’t really a fair answer but it is the truth. The only things we ever dress up as are football players (so comfy) or people from the 80’s (I’m not sure people would know we were in costume since we are a little stuck there anyway) so I am going to go with that one.

  21. Ironically, an easy choice for me. I’d so rather be the one not in costume than the only one in costume. I would rather have those stares than the other kind. πŸ™‚ At least they’d think I had a lack of taste rather than a lack of sanity. πŸ˜€

    • LOL Julie! Yes, definitely err on the side of appearing to be without taste than without sanity…love it! πŸ™‚

  22. What a dilemma! I’m going to go with being the only ones wearing the costume because I figure if you’re going to be inappropriately dressed, do it in style. Plus I have the well-earned rep for being no fun so wouldn’t that shock them? I love those clowns!

    • HA HA HA Liz! I have earned that reputation, too, so maybe I should rethink my answer and shake them up a little! πŸ˜‰

  23. I think I would feel slightly less awkward with no costume. Either I would leave asap. Its a good question.
    Is that you guys in the clown suits?

    • Good thinking….it would easy enough to try to cobble together some strange, regular clothes costume! πŸ˜‰

  24. I’d go for the ones not dressed.This always reminds me of those crazy scenarios where someone plays a prank on someone and they show up with a costume even though everyone is wearing regular clothes. Like Elle from Legally Blonde? I’d be embarrassed. With plain clothes, you can go out and get some makeup real quick and be a walker.


  25. I’ve got to go with just showing up in clothes to a costume party. Because really you KNOW that everyone in costume is looking at you and saying “damn, I wish I had the balls to show up at a costume party in just regular clothes! I’d be so much more comfortable! I am so damn hot with this make up running down my face and I am rocking the boob sweat and swamp ass tonight in this highly flammable and not a bit breathable nylon outfit!”.
    Yeah. Just clothes.

    • LOL! That is so true! They would all be SO JEALOUS that they didn’t think of “forgetting” their costume, too! ;)_

  26. Yeah only one NOT in a costume please. Because I am from the South I can simply slip off my shoes, toss a pillow in my shirt and go as ‘barefoot and pregnant’ .. see seee.. always thinking..

  27. Gah! Could not help but think of Elle Woods in her playboy bunny outfit. I say, rock the costume baby! You could always say you were the hired help or entertainment. Wishing you girls and your families a fun and spooky Halloween. And p.s. please PLEASE remind your husbands that this is the perfect opportunity to wear their meggings. πŸ˜‰

    • So so sad that we were not able to convince our hubbies to wear meggings or a Nubrella! What a disappointment Halloween was in our houses! πŸ˜‰

  28. This reminds me of when Elle went to the party dressed up. Only it wasn’t a costume party.

    But I’d rather not be dressed up at a costume party. I would most likely tell a little white lie and say I had to work late and didn’t want to miss the party.

    Of course, since I dress like the last couple all the time I guess it doesn’t really matter. ha!

  29. Ha ha! I’ve been both. Our first date was Halloween night, and we were the only ones not in costume. Years later, we really went all out with our costumes with another couple and showed up at a nightclub that was hosting a major party. . .the following week. We partied and danced all night, and laughed ourselves silly about getting the date wrong. I am so glad we decided to just roll with the punches and find a way to salvage those nights!

    • Love that you have been both sides of this scenario Kim…you can truly give us all some perspective on this one! πŸ™‚

  30. I’ve been the girl un-dressed up before. Wasn’t bad. I felt dumb but I didn’t LOOK dumb and everyone knows it’s what’s on the outside that counts. πŸ˜‰

  31. Put me in the plain clothes camp! I’m not much a fan of dressing up anyways, so most of my friends would know that already. I don’t think I’ve ever gone as all-out as that clown couple, that’s for sure!

  32. Clowns FREAK me out!! That picture was not cool! :O

    Ahem…moving on to the matter at hand…umm…can I not go? No? Fine. No costume. If everyone else is wearing one I’ll make up a story about it and hope they believe me…mwahahah!! >:D

  33. I’ll take “NO COSTUME” any day over being in costume while everyone isn’t. I can always say I came as a psych ward patient. HEEHEE… hey, there have been many times I’ve gotten out of the hospital and we’ve ended up somewhere like eating out. I definitely feel like I’m the one in a costume and everyone else isn’t. My next t-shirt will have on it “I have Bipolar Disorder. What’s your excuse?”

    That should get some discussions going on. πŸ™‚

  34. I would DEFINITELY, DEFINITELY (can I not make this font any bigger?) arrive in costume regardless. Any opportunity to dress up is one I will take. This should be obvious, I guess, from me, since I am also the same one who would happily wear a bra on the outside of her top rather than go braless. See, it’s only a 50/50 chance that people will either think I am crazy or just a total badass. And may the odds be ever in my favor.

    ALSO, I have seen Bridget Jone’s Diary (more than once, I admit) and she shows up to a party dressed as a Playboy Bunny when no one else was in costume. And what did that get her? Mr. Darcy.
    That’s right.

  35. I am not sure, honestly. I think I could laugh at either scenario – and let me just say that both of these are entirely possible for me! I guess I would say costume – at least you are embracing the spirit of the occasion, right?

  36. i think more people are inclined to dress down, than dress up, so i would go for the non-costume. that way you can sit at the bar and say you just came from work or some other very plausible excuse. whereas if you’re all dressed up like miley cyrus and robin thicke at the MTV awards and everyone else is in cocktail attire…well…that would be embarrassing.

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