Would You Rather: Hear All Of Your Best Friend’s Thoughts Or Not Communicate At All?

Have we told you all before how much we love you? The Dose Peeps are seriously just the greatest! Even though Valentine’s Day is officially over, we are still feeling mushy okay?! Just go with it!

Today’s question is courtesy of the FABULOUS Rabia from The LiebersΒ who sent it to us after we asked for reader suggestions. It is a real doozy, which means we totally love it and can’t wait to make you all answer it!

Would you rather hear every thought your best friend has for one week or not see/communicate at all with her for a month?

Lisa and I totally laughed about this on the phone together, as really, we already do hear each other’s every thought, so for us this is an easy one! Not talking for a month is simply unacceptable. We have copious amounts of a reality TV to discussΒ a blog to run here people.

Except, seriously, though is there anyone (even your bestie) where you want to hear every single thought they have for an entire week? What if they are really constipated one day and you have to experience to mental debate about whether or not they should take a laxative? Or what if something worse happens, like they watch a Ryan Gosling movie and hate it? You can see the slippery slope here, right?


On the flip side of this question, you face the possibility of an entire month with no communication with your best friend. Who else are you supposed to complain to when you are on time number 1,326 of telling the kids that IT.IS.TIME.FOR.BED. or that you can’t seem to get your hubby to remember that the sink is *actually* where dirty dishes go? You can’t celebrate the return of The Amazing Race and SurvivorΒ with a random acquaintance. Before you know it, you find yourself sharing your inner most thoughts with the cashier at the grocery store. It could get really rough.


It is not easy, is it? You think you know which way you are leaning but then you realize that it could be tricky either way. However, because the name of the game is Would You Rather, you must choose. One side. One scenario. One answer. Tell us what you are thinking and why in the comments.



Would You Rather: Hear All Of Your Best Friend’s Thoughts Or Not Communicate At All? — 134 Comments


    Okay- now what was the question again? πŸ˜‰

    I would TOTALLY listen to their thoughts – I actually (is this weird and sick?) would be a bit amused and fascinated to know EXACTLY what goes on in their minds ALL the time!!! Now, I may be absolutely MAD by the end of the week, but hey- a month without talking? Never.

    • YAY! I totally get exactly what you are saying actually…I am super nosy and a bit voyeuristic so I would consider it a great psychological study! πŸ˜‰

  2. I would go the month, because as much as I love my best friend (and I do) I am not sure I could go a week listening to her every thought. I mean not sure I could get that close or into another’s head, because sometimes too much is really too much!

  3. This is a toughie!
    I want to say I want the one week of listening but I also believe in boundaries…yea, even with my bestie. So I’m gonna go with the excruciating one month of not taking or seeing at all. πŸ™

  4. I couldn’t go a day without texting with my best friend, let alone a month I’m pretty sure I get her every thought anyway, the way we abuse iMessage, so it’s an easy choice this time!

  5. I don’t have one best friend, more like a tier of friends who are in the “best” category, and not one of them would I want to hear what they are thinking for a week. This one is easy for me. I’d be taking a month off!

  6. I would hear every thought. I would love to her anyone’s thoughts for a week, let alone the thoughts of my bestie! I know that if anyone could hear my thoughts for a whole week they would realize what a big bag of weird it is up there and they would probably never talk to me again. And they’d be right not to because they would realize that half of the time they were talking to me I was thinking about something complete out of left field. So I guess if the question was you could hear their thoughts and they could hear yours, I’d have to pass and be incommunicado for a month.

    • HA HA HA!! I love the fact that you would want to listen in, but would not want to be heard yourself! I totally know exactly what you mean! πŸ™‚

  7. My friends and I think alike for the most part so I think this is an easy one. I could not go a day without saying something to my friends even if its a good morning text.

  8. I’d have to pick the going a month without communicating. I’m sure when we start communicating again, we’d pick back up right where we left off…that’s the kind of relationship we have.

  9. Although it could get a bit dodgey, I’d rather listen in than no communication at all. It could get really fun if we were out together somewhere and were just really talking up a storm without moving out lips πŸ™‚

  10. Funny you should ask this. I’m going on two weeks of not talking to my bff and it’s killing me. We keep missing each other. My life is better when she’s in it so I would choose to hear her every thought. Now, if you would have asked if I’d want her to hear my every thought…I’m not sure which way I’d go. πŸ™‚

    • I LOVE that your daughter is one of your best friends…I hope to one day say the same thing about my girls! πŸ™‚

  11. my buff and I have shared so many intimate details, not many thoughts could weird me out. since she lives in France and I only see her about once a year, I would totally take all of her thoughts all of the time!

  12. I’m going to go with hearing all of her thoughts. I am pretty sure I already hear about 75% of them anyway, so it probably wouldn’t be too bad…..and there is no way we would last a month without talking!!

  13. OK, I’d be slightly afraid to hear something I didn’t want to hear about myself, but I think I’d still go with hearing her thoughts rather than not speaking to her. My bestie is always up front and honest with me, so I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t hear something way out of left field! So glad you were able to use my question!!

    • I do think the fear of hearing something I wouldn’t want to would give me pause, but I would still listen in anyway! πŸ™‚

  14. I couldn’t give up talking for a month. My friends and I are pretty open anyway so hearing all of each other’s thoughts for a week wouldn’t be too big of a deal!

  15. I would totally choose to hear all of her thoughts. A month of radio silence would be torturous! But how would this work? Would she also hear all of my thoughts? Might we risk hearing each other say, “Lordy, I never realized just how annoying my BFF can be!”? No matter – I’d still choose that over no contact. Great question!

  16. I think this is an easy one. If this is truly your best friend then every single thought. Even though you have to go through her menstrual cycle somewhere in that month. LOL

  17. Rabia, this was a great question!
    *too bad the DGs can’t think of anything funny to write anymore. I hope they get their mojo back or else their readers will end up writing their blog…could they do that? I think someone is listening in.*
    It’s so nice you were able to give the DGs a writing break from their brilliant blog. They are the best, aren’t they? *hmmm?* πŸ™‚ luff you

    • HA HA HA Stacey! Rabia is a great Dose Peep for giving us such an awesome question for this week! We welcome any opportunity to take a break from the thinking! πŸ˜‰

  18. I would totally go a month with no communication – I don’t want to hear/know anyone’s every thought – I can barely handle dealing with all of my own!!

  19. Depends on who my best friend is that week/month. LOL. Since my mom is kinda my default best friend, I’ll go with the best friend not related to me and listen to every thought for a week. In fact, this could be pretty entertaining because she’s incredibly hilarious. Great question, as usual!

  20. Oh, the dilemma! I think I will take it like this: I don’t think I want to know every thought of my bestie. It might make me never look at them the same way again! I would know how many times they were being polite when they really wanted to tell me to hush, I would know all the intimate details of every moment of every day, among other things, and I don’t know if I could handle that. I mean, what if it ruined our friendship? And, as they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder! I’d rather be gushing after a month with word-vomit trying to get all the missed details in vs. hearing every thought and regretting knowing things later. I know, a month of silence would be awful, but it might actually strengthen the relationship later, ya know?

    • I definitely know what you mean Julie…I feel like it would be SO HARD if you heard something you wished you didn’t. I would never be able to get past it if it happened to me. You make a really good point!

  21. As much as I love her, I don’t think I could hear every single though from my BFF because her mind is always going! Although unintentional, we’ve gone for a month before without communicating.

  22. Gotta say a month off. I don’t think I would want anyone to hear all of my thoughts, I think that it would be a burden and people don’t say everything they think for a reason (snarky, crazy or rude). We would catch up in a month and likely pick up where we left off after that.

  23. A month off, please! I don’t have one BFF and I’m not the type to talk to a friend every day, so hearing every thought for a week may just kill the friendship.:)

  24. This is hard! Since we are still feeling mushy, gushy, can i say that my hubby is my best friend? He travels for work so I am used to him being gone periodically (although usually not for a whole month). Sometimes, the quiet is nice. Although I know most of his thoughts already, I think hearing every single one in my own head might drive me bonkers. So, I’m going with no communication for a month. After all, absence make the heart grow fonder, right??? πŸ™‚

  25. I think I’d choose to listen. Because I’m insecure that way and it’s all about me. Was I annoying, talking about Tucker’s transition too much in his new school program? The one missing piece to this though, is if she could hear me back. I’m not sure I’d want ANYBODY listening to my thoughts, for a week.
    maybe I can submit that as your next question? Like would you rather not speak IRL to ANYBODY for a month or have your spouse/best friend hear your every thought for three days?? Can I submit like that? Is that lame?

  26. Ouch. This is really tough. I think I would have to go with a whole month without communicating. As much as I love my best friend, I really don’t think I need to hear every thought. Plus, we both even if a month goes by, we can pick up right where we left off.

    • I do agree that it would easier to pick right back up, especially if you have not heard something you wish you hadn’t! πŸ˜‰

  27. See herein lies the issue with me and this question. I am so in tune with my BFFs that I can read them like a book. Which they find irritating as heck at times and I find insanely funny when they are thinking the naughty thoughts bwhaahaha

  28. This is going to sound so cheesy, but my bestie really is the Husband…and I would go nuts not being able to talk to him for a month. Besides, being able to hear every single one of this thoughts would just give me more reasons to tease him!

  29. My best friend is a lawyer and I don’t think I could stomach all her tort and quid pro quo mumbo-jumbo. She lives in California so we are used to looooong stretches of incommunicado. But when we get together, woo boy! So I will take no communication for a month.

  30. It would be a convenience for my BFF’s to hear my thoughts if you must know! I LOVE talking to them on the phone and texting, but on busy days, it would save a lot of time if my thoughts would just beam to them! I wonder if you could find something on Pinterest that beams thoughts. Sweet!

  31. Oh this was easy: not communicate for a month lol. I only say this because I would hate for anyone to hear MY thoughts, so I can’t imagine how theirs would be any less embarrassing/freaky/outrageous lol.

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  33. There is no choice for me. I couldn’t go a month without communicating with anyone, let alone my BFF. So, I’d take the week of hearing all her thoughts. It’s no biggie with me, her voice would just be added to all the other voices that chatter on in my head. πŸ™‚

    Have a blessed day!

  34. WEll, i would do without my best friend for a month….I figure if we love each other enough to stay away for one month, we will never have to do it again, and absence only makes the heart grow fonder! There is no way I would want to listen to every thought….I can barely stand my own mind…

  35. I would definitely want to hear every single thought for a week… mostly because I’m nosey, and even being best friends, people still keep things to themselves. Like their thoughts. That I’m about to invade!

  36. Ok this one is easy peasy. I have two best, best friends and both live out of town. So I am used to not hearing from them every day. I seriously cannot imagine being inside their heads for a month. The thought gives me the heebyjeebies. Love ’em both dearly but I don’t want to hear constant never ending thoughts. My own are enough and yes often too much as it is!

    • Oh my Gosh, I totally did not even think about the fact that I would still have my children’s chatter to deal with! πŸ˜‰

  37. Hmm…I would rather not talk to her for a month. Sorry, I can’t even stand my own thoughts sometimes and I won’t be able to tolerate hearing every thought of someone elses, not even my best friends…YIKES!

  38. My best friend and I can go for months without talking, except for a few texts and FB chat. But when we do see each other, we talk for hours upon hours upon hours. Usually with a few beers. Okay, a lot of beers.
    We both live in different cities and she also lived abroad for a few years back then but our friendship has survived the test of time. She was my maid of honor at my wedding 9 years ago!
    I’d rather not hear all of her thoughts too because she is crazy! I’m sure she will say the same thing about me LOL.

  39. Okay, this one is easy peasy for me, I would much rather here every thought my friend had than go a month without talking to her!! I need people too much and if I couldn’t talk to her I would start talking to cans of peas like I did when I was two. Since people thought it was strange back then, I’m pretty sure it would be frowned upon now! xoxo

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