Would You Rather: Only Be Able To Whisper Or Only Be Able To Yell?

When we went on our girl’s beach weekend last month, we saw the movie The Wolf Of Wall Street, which clocks in at a little over three hours. This running time made one of the women a few rows in front of us have to run to the ladies room about two hours into the movie. When she returned to her seat, her friend took that opportunity to fill her in on what she had missed.


At such full volume that those of us who had not missed the last five minutes of the movie missed the next five minutes because all we could hear was this woman TALKING AT FULL VOLUME.

Almost as if she was truly incapable of whispering.

Could you take it down a notch, ma’am?

It got us all talking after the movie about whispering versus yelling.

Like what if for three straight months, we could only do one or the other, no matter where we were or what we were doing.

At the grocery store with the cashier asking us if we found everything we needed.

You are either yelling at her or whispering so quietly she can’t hear you.

With your kids calling them to dinner.

Good luck with three months of whispering those requests.

Or maybe it would be a blessing in disguise because you would train their ears to really pay attention to mommy talking.

Basically, think about and apply it to your own life and then let us know what you think. We know our answer, by the way.

Since our natural speaking voice is already on the loud side, whispering is not an option for us. Guess we will just have to skip all trips to the movies and the library for the next three months! What about you, Dose Peeps? Would you rather only be able to whisper or only be able to yell?





Would You Rather: Only Be Able To Whisper Or Only Be Able To Yell? — 119 Comments

  1. YELL!!!!! OMG I cannot imagine if I could only whisper. I would probably die from the stress of not being heard. Plus, good luck trying to teach spinning and power sculpt while whispering – HA!!!

    • HA HA HA! The thought of the spin instructor just up there whispering away made me laugh out loud! You should try it at a class just once! πŸ˜‰

  2. Whisper. It would be a challenge since I am more of a natural yeller but I can’t stand listening to myself yell and I assume neither can anyone else. I will be kind to the world and say Whisper. But I can still whisper yell, right?

    • When you put it that way Tara it makes me think maybe I should change my answer! I am sure my kids would agree that whispering mommy would be so much more enjoyable! πŸ˜‰

  3. Not sure I know how to whisper either and think that option would be off the table for me. Try as I may, I still tend to talk on the loud side, especially after having kids! Oh well, at least I am in good company πŸ™‚

    • LOL Janine! I have a feeling my attempt to whisper would sound more like Tara’s whisper yell anyway! πŸ˜‰

  4. I’m a former cheerleader and elementary school teacher. I am Italian and the oldest of 5 girls. I am pretty sure my whisper is a yell. I’d love to try and whisper for the 3 months but who am I kidding? I’d end up in a corner somewhere in the fetal position because no one is listening to me.

    • BWAH HA HA HA! This comment made me burst out laughing…I feel the same way about my whisper, too! So funny! πŸ™‚

  5. My voice also tends to be on the louder side (half the time I’m talking to Sam he asks me why I’m yelling). But since Eve is only a few months and I don’t need to get her attention yet, I’ll take the three months of whispering. (Ask me again in a few years, and I’m sure I will have changed my mind!).

    • LOL! Robert says the same thing to me! This would definitely be a good age for Eve, because you are so right…a few years from now and your answer will be different! πŸ˜‰

  6. This is a hard one for me! I have a loud voice, and when I had a cold last month and could only whisper, it was terrible! But I wouldn’t want to be yelling constantly in my classroom when I’m teaching. So I’m going to pick whispering. The kids would have to be quiet to listen to me.

    • And boy would they learn that quickly once they forgot to pay enough attention and missed out on important information like homework! πŸ˜‰

  7. Well… since I (unfortunately) always seem to find myself yelling a lot more than I would prefer, it’s a pretty easy choice for me. I would definitely pick whispering- without a doubt!

  8. I have to pick whisper. I would be as they say on Seinfeld “a close talker”. Performing a facial while massage is going on in the next room would not be relaxing if I am shouting to my clients about their skin. Although sometimes I would like to yell at them!

  9. I’m going to pick whisper. Maybe people would think I was sick and I’d get lots of sympathy. And think of all the weight I’d lose if I had to get off the couch and go do things myself instead of yelling, “Can someone get me a drink of water?!” Oh wait, that’s the kids!!

  10. Well, I don’t know if I ever have whispered in my entire life. So I must pick yell!!!! Wait. I think I already do that. All the time. Like that yell where you squeal with lots of laughter yell- while making totally inappropriate jokes in small group yell…about your left breast of something yell. And then as you are laughing SO hard you keep yelling more and more about it….because you don’t know HOW to tone it down to a whisper.

    God didn’t put that button in me. Hmm….

  11. No contest. Whisper. I truly HATE yelling. It would be a bummer at moments when say, my loved ones crossed the finish line at a marathon, or while watching an intense sporting event, but would probably inspire a lot more candlelit, intimate dinners with no other ambient noise around.

    • LOL! The intimate dinners would be a bonus! The no yelling at sports things would be a total deal breaker for me!

    • It would be fun, right Nina!?! I think watching people try to figure out what you were saying would be funny!

  12. I’d whisper …
    less people talking to me the better. I’d make everyone feel like they were going deaf by telling them I’m talking in a normal toned voice.


    (I know it’s been a while since I’ve stopped by…Don’t judge me!”

    • Cracking up! Love the idea of making people crazy with the whispering! So good to “see” you here again…no judgement from us!

  13. I guess other people would hate me less if I whispered rather than yelling at them. Your movie experience is really annoying, I would have been tempted to throw popcorn at them.

  14. Ah, so frustrating!
    I’d have to say whisper. Only because I don’t like to draw attention to myself (I’m a terrible Leo) and I like to be friendly and kind to all. I’m actually a lot in real life like I am in the blogging world – friends with (nearly) everyone and (mostly) non-confrontational.
    Although I think people would constantly be yelling at me to speak up! And at the end of this, I’d probably let out a scream that would reach the heavens.

    • LOL Tamara! It would be really hard, because I have a feeling the whispering would make a lot of people have to ask you to speak up, which would draw attention to you! πŸ˜‰

  15. Given that my last post was about the fact that I am a yeller, I would choose whispering. I would hope that as annoying as it would be, it may break me of the yelling habit for good. I would have to make sure I always had breath mints, though, because I think I’d be leaning in close to make myself heard!

    • I was thinking about Dana’s post while reading this one! I too am a natural yeller, but I actually think my toddler listens better when I lean in and talk very quietly and sternly to him – it’s somehow scarier! So I’ll say whisper.

  16. Whisper, but only because I sometimes get migraines and yelling would not be an option then. Also, I think it would be kinda nice to have the quiet because when you whisper, so does everyone else. And, it would be kinda fun to feel a part of a “What’s going on? Why are we whispering?” kind of thing. πŸ™‚ Would make me kinda feel like a spy…on a librarian…but I’ll go with spy! 007, eat my dust, baby! I’m so gonna be an awesome (though quiet) spy! πŸ˜‰

    • Best comment ever. It would totally be like a game, and you are so right that people would naturally join in! Love it! πŸ™‚

    • LOL…And I just saw my typo which was very taboo! That was supposed to say OR a librarian, not ON a librarian! LOL So blushing! LOL Darn my fingers! They are ever against me!

  17. whisper….me and a friend went out the other night for drinks at a bar/eating place and had to leave once this one guy got there…he had no inside voice, it was so loud…thanks for sharing the story of your eyeball veins bursting over and over again, mister!

  18. Whispering would have to be my mode of communication for the next 3 months. I am normally on the quiet side unless I get really excited. But the angrier I get the quieter I get, so that would be the biggest adjust my family would have to make. They would have to figure out a new way to tell when Mommy is about to “kill the world”… No big deal LOL.

    • HA HA HA Dot! I know exactly what you mean about the quiet anger/rage…I, too, possess that skill! πŸ˜‰

  19. Oh dear lord. Gonna have to go with whisper though. At least then only the small circle of people around me would hate me. Or if I was very lucky, all those people leaning in as I talk about give others the impression I had wisdom to impart.

  20. I have one of those naturally loud voices, too, and my husband says I am completely incapable of whispering. So maybe I’ll pick whisper, just to see what all the quiet fuss is about.

  21. My 20 year old step daughter who lives with us is a yeller, we often tell her she is like the Will Ferrell character where he can’t modulate his voice. I would like her to be only allowed to whisper ;). Me I am kind of in the middle, sometimes I yell most times I’m a whisperer.

    • LOL Jill! That would be tricky to live with the yeller! You might need to give her this challenge! πŸ˜‰

  22. I was going to originally say whisper because loud talkers make me laugh uncontrollably, and if I was yelling I feel like it would make everyone around me a loud talker and then I’d get nothing done. Though I am also a singer in a band, and would just be a terrible stage presence whispering through my gigs. I guess I will have to take the yelling, and just be in a constant state of giddiness.

    • There are worse things than being giddy all the time, right Angela?! πŸ˜‰ The mental image of you whispering through your gigs totally made me laugh out loud!

  23. I would so like to be the kind of person who could not yell for 3 months, but… Notsomuch. Yelling all the way – wouldn’t be so different from my normal speaking voice anyway.

  24. I feel like I’m already yelling all the time to be heard. I’d LOVE to be able to whisper instead. Of course, like some of the other commentators have stated, we’d probably lose our minds over having to repeat ourselves all the time.

  25. You know, I always wonder about those people who recommend whispering to get kid’s attention. You know where it’s gotten me? Nowhere. Nada. Nothing. So yelling it is. I (unfortunately) do enough already.

  26. I would like to only be able to whisper. My house is so loud with all of the kids running around, and then I have to yell to get them to stop. If all I could do is whisper….then all I would have to do is beat on a pan with a spoon to get their attention and then smile when they see the scowl on my face that means “be quiet!”

  27. I would want to whisper. The way I see it, eventually my kids would get sick of not hearing me and then they would go to their dad with all their problems and leave me alone. Mark stole your car? Go to Dad! Isabella pushed you? Eh, go to dad. I think I’m on to something here.


  29. Only able to yell, without a doubt. Then nobody could call me out and say my tone is bossy. And my boyfriend’s normal voice is a whisper tone and it makes me want to punch him in the face when he “tries to speak up.”

    • It is a really hard one, right Stephanie! Part of me feels like if I did the yelling one that maybe it would cure me of yelling forever and part of me is afraid I would stay that way forever!

  30. I’d have to go with being silent. Yelling loudly or hearing loud noises makes my brain go into psycho overdrive.

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